Whenever you meet a bar or Go Go girl, a vetting is taking place. This is a two way vetting procedure, not only are you vetting her but she will be doing her own vetting of you. You do want to make sure that she will be good company and worth the time you are investing, and she wants to make sure that being with you is going to be safe (and profitable).
The vetting process is usually done without any conscious thought. However, being a little bit strategic can save you a lot of trouble and expense.
First step in the process is to make sure you get talking to a girl that you fancy, rather than the one you don’t. The number of guys who will sit and spend time and money with a girl they don’t really like will amaze you, usually because they can’t think of a way to rather get to talk to the girl they fancy.
Here is one manageable technique you can use. As soon as you walk into a bar or a Go Go, straight away look for a girl that you fancy. If a girl that you don’t fancy sits down next to you, be quick to find an appropriate timing to point to the one you fancy and ask “What’s her name?”. If done correctly the girl next to you will most likely ask you if you want to talk to her, and maybe even ask her to come over and sit beside you. Waiting too long with the girl you really don’t fancy, and maybe engage conversations with her might make her feel rejected, but if you are swift and show interest for a different girl she will not see it as rejection. Likewise, If you talk to a lady and then decide that you’d rather talk to another, it’s best to just be honest and tell her which lady you want to talk to, most of them won’t take it personally but even if they do it’s probably better in the long run than wasting your time and hers.
The most important part of vetting a bar girl is to pay attention to the small things. If you ask somebody directly if they like you they will probably say yes, whether it is true or not, just to avoid causing offense. I find it more reliable to look for clues that she likes you instead. Does she really seem interested? You are much more likely to have a good experience if she at least likes you a bit. Clues that she likes you might be does she look at you or away from you while you are talking? Does she lean in towards you or lean away from you? Bar girls could be faking these things but at least that would show that they are keen. If they like you they will usually suggest that you pay their bar fine before you reach the point where you ask first.
When you have both passed each other initial vetting process, it’s on to the bar fine stage. My advice is in nicest way possible to get things as straight. If you want her all night you might tell her, you do long time only. If she says no or even hesitates then the best advice is to move on, don’t ignore these things just because you want her. You might regret it later if you do. Despite all of your vetting efforts, some of them are quite prepared to look you in the eye and lie, there’s not much you can do in that situation other than let them go with whatever you feel they have earned, don’t stew on it or get angry.
Let’s not forget that his is a two way process, some of the top Go Go girls can afford to be selective, they have people wanting to bar fine them all the time so the girls will vet you too. Their lives might depend on it. There are some really messed up people out there and they have to be as sure as they can that you are not one of them. One question that they ask, which most guys fail to answer appropriate is “Don’t you like English (or wherever you are from) women?” The newbies will usually blow their cover by saying something like “English women are horrible and ugly”. You might believe this to be true but in my experience a bar girl will interpret this as you being a person who has issues with women in general. Not a good thing from her perspective. A rather good answer to be “I like women from all around the world but I am in Thailand now”. You can often see their faces light up when you say this.
Another question that they will use to vet you is “Which hotel do you stay at?”. Your answer to this question can let them know how much money you have to spend. If you are staying at a 5-star hotel, then you might be able to afford to pay her more than a guy staying at a cheap guest house. There is no advantage to being flashy, unless you really have so much money that you don’t care. If that’s the case, you don’t need this guide!
Of course they will also vet you by your appearance and personal hygiene. No need to go over the top but at least make sure that you and your clothes are clean and that your teeth have been brushed. Another thing they will use to vet you is the way that you act around them. Bar girls have a built in radar for overly drunk or aggressive behavior. It really is uncanny how when you start to get too drunk the “good” girls will disappear, and the sharks will begin to circle.